Although there may be extreme cases (some extremely publicized –e.g., Adrien Petersen), over time using spanking as a form of discipline has become highly controversial. Many school districts have legally banned corporal punishment in schools. Many states have become increasingly restrictive about how parents can discipline their children—especially in public. Why is spanking so controversial? For this week's discussion please answer the following questions:
1. Based on your text, what form of learning is spanking (classical conditioning or operant conditioning ̧ observational learning)?
2. Can spanking be effective?
3. How would you respond to parents who say that they should be able to discipline their children how they see fit? Or how do respond to adults who say “I was spanked as a child and I turned out okay”?
1. Spanking is operant conditioning form of learning.
2. Spanking is the most ineffective method but still it is a widely debated topic. Although most experts advise against corporal punishment, many parents still report spanking is an effective discipline strategy. Before you decide if it's OK to spank your child, examine the potential consequences of physical punishments.
Reasons Parents Spank
Sometimes parents spank their children out of desperation. When kids frequently misbehave, parents may feel they are at the end of their rope and aren’t sure what else to do. Often they will say, “Nothing else seems to work.”
Without a consistent discipline strategy, it may feel like spanking is the best option.
Too often, parents rely on spanking to fix behavior problems without ever trying alternative discipline options.
Another common reason parents spank is out of exasperation. A parent who thinks, "I can't believe you just did that!" may spank a child without thinking. Instead, they react out of anger or fear. Without a clear plan in place for discipline, spanking may become the first line of defense.
The Problems With Spanking
Spanking a child can create even more problems than it cures. Here are a few reasons you may want to rethink spanking your child:
Spanking doesn’t teach kids how to behave appropriately. A child who gets spanked for arguing with his brother won't learn how to get along better in the future. Effective discipline should teach new skills.
Spanking models aggression. Children do what parents do, more than what they say. So if you spank your child for hitting his brother, you'll send a confusing message.
Children who are spanked often feel shame. They may think, "I'm bad," and may struggle with self-esteem issues. Children who experience shame aren't motivated to improve their behavior.
Spanking shifts a child's focus from their behavior to their parent's behavior. They may spend their time focusing on how they are angry at their parent rather than on what they could do better next time. Kids then begin to make decisions based on thinking “What can I do that won’t get me a spanking” versus “What’s the best choice I can make right now.”
Spanking loses effectiveness over time. Sometimes kids decide the misbehavior is “worth it.” A more effective discipline strategy, such as taking away electronics for 24 hours, can be much more effective in motivating kids to behave.
Spanking isn't an option as children grow older. If you have always used spanking to discipline your child, what will you do when he is 16? There are plenty of age-appropriate discipline strategies that you can use as an alternative to spanking throughout your child’s life.
Alternatives to Spanking
There are many discipline strategies that are more effective than spanking. Consider alternative negative consequences that will teach your child new skills.
If your child colors on the walls, a logical consequence would be to have him wash the walls. This teaches him to have more respect for property.
Restitution helps restore relationships and helps children learn new skills as well. It can be very effective for aggressive behavior and works well for children and teens of all ages.
The goal of discipline should be to teach your child new skills so your child can grow up with the tools necessary to be a responsible adult.
The goal of discipline should be to teach your child new skills so your child can grow up with the tools necessary to be a responsible adult.
So when determining which discipline strategies to use, think about what you hope your child will gain from your intervention.
3. Part 3 of the answer is completely based on research, i believe each parent irrespective of whether they spank their child or not should read the below research as it will help them understand child's behaviour plus they will be able to stop any other parent from commiting this mistake.
Lots of adults can recall being spanked as children. In fact, international data suggest that most kids have been spanked, close to 300 million worldwide (UNICEF, 2017). Spanking has been defined as open-handed hitting that does not injure a child and is typically done with the intention of modifying the child’s bad behavior (Gershoff & Grogan-Kaylor, 2016). Spanking as a parent’s main form of punishment was common for decades or even centuries and was based on the rationale that being spanked isn’t harmful to children, and that it can, in fact, be beneficial by helping change children’s bad behaviors.
After years of commonsense appeal, ideas about spanking have changed dramatically in the past two decades. In 1998, the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) wrote a statement for the first time discouraging parents from spanking their children as a method of punishment. This month, they’ve updated their policy again, now recommending that parents do not spank their children at all.
Why the change? Before the 1990s, physical punishment was the accepted method for disciplining children around the world and was generally thought of as distinct from physical abuse. Around that time, research suggesting that physical punishment had negative consequences for both children’s behavior and their emotional health started accumulating. Now the research overwhelmingly confirms these early findings, leading to the AAP’s change in policy.
Two important findings have guided these policy changes. First, research suggests that spanking isn’t actually effective in stopping children from engaging in disruptive behaviors. In terms of getting kids to do what you ask them to in the short term, spanking might cause a problem behavior to stop momentarily, but it is no more effective than other non-violent methods, like a timeout.
Most importantly, in the long term, spanking is associated with less compliance than other forms of discipline (Gershoff, 2013). Spanking likely doesn’t work as a form of punishment, because it causes physical pain, leading to fear and confusion in children, which could, in turn, interfere when the child is trying to learn the rule or message that a parent is attempting to convey (Gershoff, 2013). Further, when spanking is used to get children to stop behaving aggressively—to stop hitting other kids, for example—it is not only ineffective as a method of punishment, but it actually backfires.
This leads us to the second important research finding that led to the AAP’s new policy: Spanking has been linked to increases in negative behaviors, such as physical aggression. In a large meta-analysis of 14 different studies on the effects of spanking on children, researchers found a consistent relationship between spanking and aggressive behavior (Gershoff & Grogan-Kaylor, 2016).
You could argue from some of this research that spanking doesn’t lead to aggression and that, instead, aggressive kids are just more likely to be spanked. However, another long-term study of over 12,000 children across the country reported that children who were spanked at age 5 were more likely to act aggressively at ages 6 and 8. This study suggests that spanking precedes the aggressive behavior problems seen in children. Further, these researchers controlled for the number of behavior problems that children had, meaning that the link between spanking and aggression was independent of whether or not the kids were particularly difficult or defiant (Gershoff, Sattler, & Ansari, 2018).
Why does spanking lead to more aggressive behavior? The answer is simple: By watching parents hit, children are likely learning that hitting is acceptable behavior and a permissible form of punishment. On top of that, we already know from more than 50 years of research that watching others behave aggressively can cause children to behave more aggressively as well (e.g., Bandura, Ross, & Ross, 1963). So despite the fact that it took a while to get here, perhaps these findings shouldn’t be very surprising.
On top of leading to more aggressive behavior in children, spanking is also associated with more mental health problems, lower self-esteem, cognitive difficulties, and more negative relationships between children and their parents (Gershoff & Grogan-Kaylor, 2016). Harsh corporal punishment has even been associated with problems in brain development (Tomoda et al., 2009). Yelling, verbal abuse, and shaming have been associated with similar outcomes.
Based on this research, policymakers like the AAP from around the world are also changing their views on spanking. Only a few days ago, French parliament members voted overwhelmingly in favor of a bill that would ban parents from smacking their kids. Very recent research has suggested that policy changes banning corporal punishment have been associated with positive changes in children’s behavior: In a study that documented children’s behavior in 88 different countries after corporal punishment was banned, researchers reported that these bans were associated with less frequent physical fighting in both adolescent girls and boys. Countries that banned corporal punishment in school, but not in the home, showed some lessening of physical fighting in children, but only in girls (Elgar et al., 2018).
Although this research suggests that spanking is not an appropriate form of discipline, there are alternative methods for modifying children’s bad behavior. The AAP is encouraging forms of discipline that include rewarding positive behaviors and removing rewards as a main form of punishment. For example, a refusal to eat dinner could result in the loss of dessert. Likewise, grabbing toys away from a sibling could result in the loss of those toys.
Some parents use time-outs, isolating the child from a desired activity for some period of time, while others are now using time-ins, where the parent stays with the child to talk about his or her transgression. The ultimate goal of discipline is to teach the child something about appropriate and inappropriate behavior, so it is important to be consistent and to follow through so that children come to learn the consequences of inappropriate behavior and start to internalize rules.
Altogether, this work has a very clear message: Parents shouldn’t spank their kids. While countless studies now show that physical punishment leads to negative outcomes, not a single study to date shows that physical punishment is associated with anything positive for children (Durrant, 2012).
I’ve heard people push back when they hear this, saying things like, “I was spanked, and I turned out fine,” or “It really depends on the kid.” Sure, maybe some kids who are spanked are fine, and perhaps some kids are more likely to be fine than others, but these arguments ignore a great deal of research demonstrating that a lot of kids who are spanked are not fine. The bottom line is that we now have overwhelming evidence that spanking is not an effective strategy for changing children’s bad behavior, and that it can, in fact, cause long-term damage to a child’s well-being.
One final thought: Does the fact that we now know we shouldn’t spank our children mean that we should hold something against our own parents for spanking us? Not necessarily. When thinking about this question, it’s important to remember that before the 1990s, spanking was the well-accepted method that most parents used to discipline their children. The research that we have now—the research that I’m telling you about here—wasn’t available to them.
Unfortunately, science moves very slowly, but now that we have overwhelming evidence that we shouldn’t spank, we can use that evidence to improve our parenting skills. There’s a lot we know now that we didn’t know 20 years ago—we know that rear-facing car seats are good, putting newborns to sleep on their stomachs could be bad, and breastmilk is likely better than formula—and we’ll know more 20 years from now than we do today.
The best we can do is use the science we have now to help us become better parents. As we learn more, we can do more, and work to create more positive outcomes for our children with each generation.
References
Durrant, J., & Ensom, R. (2012). Physical punishment of children: lessons from 20 years of research. Canadian Medical Association Journal, 184, 1373-1377.
Although there may be extreme cases (some extremely publicized –e.g., Adrien Petersen), over time using spanking...