Question

1.   Use the following form to record three conflicts that occur in your life that you are comfortable analyzing.

2.   For each, describe your behavior, show how it fits the definition of conflict, classify your conflict style, and describe the consequences of your behaviors.

3.   Summarize your findings in the space provided.

Incident	Your behavior	How it meets the definition of conflict Expressed struggle Perceived compatible goals Perceived scarce resources Interdependence Interference of other party	Your conflict style Avoid Accommodate Compete Compromise Collaborate	consequences
example My friend accused me of being too negative about the possibility of finding rewarding, well-paying work.	I became defensive and angrily denied his claim. In turn I accused him of being too critical.	This was clearly an expressed struggle and I perceived interference in my choice of jobs. Possibly we both perceived scarcity of the reward of feeling good about ourselves.	Competing	After arguing for some time, we left each other, both feeling upset. I’m sure we’ll both feel awkward around each other for a while.
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Conclusions

1. Are there any individuals or issues that repeatedly arouse conflicts?

2. What conflict style(s) do you most commonly use? Do you use different styles with different people or in different situations? Why or why not?

3. Choose one or more of the conflicts you described in which you did not use a collaborative style and explain how you could have used a collaborative style. Predict what would have happened.

4. Are you satisfied with your usual way(s) of approaching conflict? Why or why not?

Answer 1

My Findings:

Sr. No	Incident	Your behavior	How it meets the definition of conflict	Your conflict style	Consequences
1	Debate among friends on how tough is life	Argument	Since every one felt differently hence it was purely fight an argument	Fight	We all left the room argumentatively with heavy heads
2	In an interview I was asked personal questions which I was not comfortable answering	Feeling Burdened	Conflict in my head whether to answer or not if I don't answer I won't get selected but if I answer I wouldn't be happy with my self	Flight (Run Away)	Skipped from the room with the first chance I got
3	Me and my friend disussing how to study for the entrance exam	Motivated / Encouraged All Pepped up	Setting up compatible goals/ Exploring Pain areas/Identifying resources	Collaborative	Felt content / got a way to approach the coming entrance test

1. Are there any individuals or issues that repeatedly arouse conflicts?

No

2. What conflict style(s) do you most commonly use? Do you use different styles with different people or in different situations? Why or why not?

Style depends on situation not the person because it’s the situation or the topic that is being discussed which will signal you where to fight back/ Flight or be collaborative

3. Choose one or more of the conflicts you described in which you did not use a collaborative style and explain how you could have used a collaborative style. Predict what would have happened.

The first two incidents

1^st incident we could have all sat amicably and jotted points of how fair and unfair life has been to us till date and then reached a consensus but instead we all chose to fight.

2^nd incident I could have told my interviewer that I was not comfortable in answering such questions and he could have understood me rather than flight.

4. Are you satisfied with your usual way(s) of approaching conflict? Why or why not?

I think I can use more collaborative style than the above two as it will help me function better is what I feel personally.