Question

1.Many people believe that sending children to time-out is the only way they will learn that are consequences for their negative behavior. What are your thoughts on this?

Answer 1

Time out is a best disciplinary action for children's negative behavior , without giving harsh punishments.

Time out disciplinary action may go ineffective in certain situations.

• frequent use of it: If the parents are using this same action very often, children may not be thinking of their behavior problems, but will be feeling bad towards the parents.
• Attending to children during time out: Time out is a time period during which the child is asked to sit quietly in a room away from all other distractions. This is a positive measure to help the child think about his or her negative behavior, just a few minutes before. But if the parents are listening to the child's cries or talks or reasons or allowing the child to play with toys, during the time out period, the child will not be feeling it as a disciplinary action, but as a relaxation time.
• using it for wrong behaviors: Time out is usually used for opposing behaviors. If it is used for every behavior and very often, the child may not co operate and the effectiveness of the action will be lost.

How we can improve the time out action ?

• use alternative methods like positive reinforcements for good behavior and explaining the problems when the child shows negative behavior.
• can deal with the tantrum issues with proper deals, that means if the child obeys what the parent says, the parent also agrees to child's need but with certain limitations.
• talk to the child, when the child is not angry or aggressive. Explain the problems of his behavior and its effects.
• use time out in an improved method.: Warn the child when he is showing a negative behavior. call for time out , if the warnings are not effective. go for brief time outs of 1 to 3 or 5 minutes duration. Make the time out time boring, do not talk , look or respond to the child. call off the time out, when the time period finishes.