Question

1. What do you think about participation trophies/ribbons/etc? Would you keep them? What are your parameters in terms of age or activity?

2. There is a lot of conversation about parenting that mainly criticizes millennials. As we move into talking about children that are school-age and older, I would like to know what you think about your own experiences and what you think about the future. Tell us a) What is the role of praise and affirmation in parenting, b) What are your parameters in terms of age or activity with this.

Be sure to give a real-life example and also express your own thoughts for each of these questions.

Answer 1

• 1. I can remember when I was younger how we got participation trophies for sports and dance. I liked them a lot and was really proud of them. It builds up a kid's self-esteem.I still have all of my certificates and trophies.I think one should keep them,it brings a sense of achievement and also your parents feel proud as well.
• But,yes,as parents,they need to make their children understand,that even if they do not win anything its not the end of the road and instill the valeu of hardwork in them.So, for younger kids (under 8-10), it is a good thing to give participation trophies because it builds up their self-esteem and still rewards them for their hard work, even if maybe they weren't the best. After that though, as a parent one needs to start weening away from it so that the kids know that one has to work for it to be rewarded and that sometimes being the best is what is needed.
• Parents still need to tell them that they did great, but use the trophy as something that they can work towards. Soon, they will get it and keep working towards that trophy. It will show them perseverance.
• At some developmental point, they become increasingly less appropriate. When those lessons are well absorbed, it’s time to move the goalpost, because at some point, the lesson becomes more complex: as a child grows, he needs to become less dependent upon external praise, and begin to grow his own internal sense of self worth, which is based in part on authentic accomplishment and an objective evaluation of where he stands in relation to the skills and abilities of others in his league.
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